Coaching practices for Authentic Charisma

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• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• People tell me I come across as cold or standoffish when I don’t mean to at all
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
• I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel

Practices that may help

1. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
2. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. Project warmth
   Signal that you like and accept the person — warmth is goodwill made visible.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
5. Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
   Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
6. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
   How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
7. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
   Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
8. Listen charismatically
   Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
9. Cultivate presence
   Be fully here — undivided attention is the rarest and most flattering gift you can give.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
10. Signal credibility without claiming it
    Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical

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