Coaching practices for How Can I Help a Child Who Won't Talk to Anybody at School Selective Mutism
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- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- It’s not that I don’t care about people
- When a problem gets hard my mind just goes quiet and blank and I sort of stall out staring at it
- I’ve gone quiet on everyone
Practices that may help
- Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Practise specific conversation micro-skills
Most shy people don’t lack social instinct — they lack a few specific skills in conversation pacing, questions, and listening.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
Zone of Proximal Development: Learning at Your Real Edge - Schedule social contact as a priority activity
Treat social interaction as a prescribed activity, not as something to do when you feel ready.
Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
Ross Greene’s Collaborative Problem Solving model holds that kids with explosive behavior lack the cognitive skills to handle frustration and inflexibility — not the motivation. The approach replaces punitive consequences with structured adult–child conversations that build lagging skills over time. Randomized trials in clinical settings show significant reductions in explosive behavior, though most real-world evidence is clinical and observational. - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
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Talk with your child about their day and interests
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