Coaching practices for Why Won't My Child Speak
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- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- When I ask my kid about their day I get one-word answers, and I realize I only ever ask about homework and chores
- My kid blows up over the same things again and again, and I keep calling it defiance or attitude
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- Something scared my child
Practices that may help
- Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Name it to tame it: tell the story of the big feeling
Help the child narrate what happened and how it felt — storytelling is brain integration.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Use self-directed speech to regulate problem-solving
Talk yourself through a hard task aloud; private speech is an internalized coaching voice.
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Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
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Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
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Building a Second Brain (BASB) is Tiago Forte’s system for capturing, organizing, distilling, and expressing ideas using a personal knowledge management (PKM) system. The four-step CODE framework (Capture, Organize, Distill, Express) structures an external system that reduces the cognitive load of remembering and re-finding information. BASB is a practitioner framework grounded in cognitive-offloading and note-taking research rather than a formally tested protocol.
- Engage Upstairs Brain Children
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
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