Coaching practices for How Can I Help My Child to Stay Still
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- My little one gets so wound up or so shut down that talking goes nowhere
- I keep working on teaching my child to self-regulate, but the same things tip them over every time
- My child reacts to everything on pure impulse and never seems to stop and think how the other kid feels, and I want to actually build that thinking-and-considering muscle during our good calm moments, not just keep firefighting once they’ve already lost it.
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- When my kid acts out I lose it
Practices that may help
- Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Give clear, calm, single instructions
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Co-regulate by naming your own zone first
A parent who models zone awareness is a more effective co-regulator than one who only monitors the child.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
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