Coaching practices for How Can I Inform My Boss That I May Have Been Hired by Mistake
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Someone senior just found out about a change after the fact and was hurt they were the last to know
- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- Someone just came to me with a mistake and I felt my face tighten before I said a word
- I dropped the ball and now I can feel myself about to bury the admission in a whole paragraph of reasons why it wasn’t really my fault
- I walked away from that meeting certain my boss is unhappy with me and certain the whole project is going to fall apart
Practices that may help
- Inform stakeholders before they ask, not after they complain
I’s are one-way — they receive information; the cost of surprising them is always higher than the cost of telling them.
The RACI Matrix, Made Practical - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Respond non-punitively to mistakes
When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Own mistakes promptly and without over-explanation
A fast, clean acknowledgment of error lands better than a slow, elaborate defense.
The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical - Rule out mind-reading and fortune-telling
Catch the two most common interpretation errors — assuming you know what someone is thinking, or what is about to happen.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Say "I don’t know" when you genuinely don’t
Admitting the limits of your knowledge signals intellectual honesty and raises long-term credibility.
The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical - Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use genius mapping in onboarding
Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni) - Be transparent about your competence limits
Name what you can do, what you can’t, and what you’ll need to learn — before you are found out.
The Trust Triangle - Normalize impostor feelings through selective disclosure
Tell one trusted peer that you sometimes feel like a fraud — you will almost always find the feeling is mutual.
Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
Related concerns
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Send proactive, brief status updates
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Announce a completion date to someone who will notice if you miss it.
Set external accountability deadlines
- How To Deal With A New Inexperienced And Hostile Colleague
With someone new and keen but unskilled, give clear, specific instruction and tight structure.
Directing — high direction for the eager novice
- Interview Former Manager Messing Up Interview
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
- It Manager Giving False Information To Management About The Possibility Of Remote Work
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
- My Boss Gave My Project To The New Employee What Do I Do Now
Don’t let the task you delegated jump back onto your desk the first time it gets hard.
Resist upward (reverse) delegation
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