Coaching practices for How Can I Work Better with a Younger Colleague

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’ve got a new hire starting and the lazy move is to just hand them whatever’s piled up in the backlog
  • I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
  • I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
  • My team only ever gets the leftover scraps from me, and it shows
  • Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together

Practices that may help

  1. Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
    Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
  2. Use genius mapping in onboarding
    Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
    The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni)
  3. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
    Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  4. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
    Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  5. Directing — high direction for the eager novice
    With someone new and keen but unskilled, give clear, specific instruction and tight structure.
    Situational Leadership, Made Practical
  6. Use delegation as a development tool
    Assign Q3 tasks to team members who are ready to stretch — and treat the learning curve as the point.
    The Eisenhower Matrix and Delegation
  7. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
    Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  8. Map your manager’s top three priorities
    Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  9. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  10. Match the other person’s energy and pace, not just their words
    Align your speaking rate, volume, and energy level to theirs before trying to shift them.
    Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical

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