Coaching practices for How Can Someone Rebuild Their Capacity for Trust After Experiencing Multiple Betrayals in Close Relationships

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• Trust with this person has cracked and I just keep apologizing for "not being trustworthy" in this big vague way
• Even after we patch things up, every new conflict still feels like it could be the one that ends us
• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
• Something’s damaged my trust in them but I can’t bring myself to just say so, so instead I quietly pull back, vent to other people, and let it fester
• There was one moment when I needed them most

Practices that may help

1. Diagnose which trust dimension is broken before trying to repair
   Name the specific trust assessment that failed — then address that one, not trust in general.
   The Trust Triangle
2. Let repeated repair build earned security
   Each successful repair teaches "we can break and come back" — which is what makes a relationship feel safe.
   Rupture and Repair
3. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
4. Have explicit trust conversations when trust is at stake
   Name the trust issue directly rather than managing it indirectly.
   The Trust Triangle
5. Repair an attachment injury
   Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
6. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
7. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
8. Build secure-functioning habits
   Practice the behaviors of secure attachment — reliability, responsiveness, repair — on purpose.
   Attachment Theory, Made Usable
9. The Trust Triangle
   Charles Feltman’s Trust Triangle (from The Thin Book of Trust) identifies four distinct assessments that together constitute trust: sincerity (I mean what I say), reliability (I do what I say), competence (I have the ability to do what I say), and care (I have your interests at heart). Trust breaks down when any one of these assessments fails — and repairing trust requires identifying which assessment was damaged.
10. Confidence from keeping promises to yourself
    Reliably showing up builds self-trust independent of how any session goes.
    Strength Training for Confidence

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