Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with Anger After Being Cheated on
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- I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
- My anger feels like it comes out of nowhere and blindsides me every time, but afterward I half-suspect the same handful of things keep setting me off
- I believe I have to let the anger out
- When the anger actually hits, my mind goes blank and there’s no calm voice in there
- The instant someone cuts me off or drops the ball, I’m sure they did it to me on purpose, and that one assumption is what sends me through the roof
Practices that may help
- R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Map your anger triggers
Build a personal inventory of the situations, people, and thoughts that reliably ignite your anger.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Soften when anger says attack
When unjustified anger urges attack, gently avoid, withdraw, or take the other person’s side a little.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Prepare coping self-talk in advance
Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Restructure the provocative appraisal
Identify the hot thought that amplifies anger and test a more accurate alternative.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - E — Empathize with the offender
Try to understand the pressures, fears, or story behind what they did — without excusing it.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Find the emotion underneath anger
Anger almost always has a softer, more vulnerable emotion below it — hurt, fear, shame, or grief.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Take a structured time-out
Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - H — Hold on when the hurt comes back
When resentment returns, don’t take it as proof you failed — recall your commitment and re-choose.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model
Related concerns
- How To Cope With Anger And Resentment
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
R — Recall the hurt
- Does Venting Anger Help
When unjustified anger urges attack, gently avoid, withdraw, or take the other person’s side a little.
Soften when anger says attack
- Graduated Anger Hierarchy
Lower your physiological baseline so provocations have less arousal to add.
Use progressive relaxation to lower resting arousal
- How Deal With Anger Issues
Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
Take a structured time-out
- How Do I Control My Anger Issues I Get Angry For Simple Reasons
Build a personal inventory of the situations, people, and thoughts that reliably ignite your anger.
Map your anger triggers
- How Do I Deal With Anger
When unjustified anger urges attack, gently avoid, withdraw, or take the other person’s side a little.
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