Coaching practices for How to Cope with Anger and Resentment
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- I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
- I believe I have to let the anger out
- I can stay calm reading about it, but the moment I’m actually in the situation all my good intentions vanish and I react
- When the anger actually hits, my mind goes blank and there’s no calm voice in there
- My anger feels like it comes out of nowhere and blindsides me every time, but afterward I half-suspect the same handful of things keep setting me off
Practices that may help
- R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Soften when anger says attack
When unjustified anger urges attack, gently avoid, withdraw, or take the other person’s side a little.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Prepare coping self-talk in advance
Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Map your anger triggers
Build a personal inventory of the situations, people, and thoughts that reliably ignite your anger.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - H — Hold on when the hurt comes back
When resentment returns, don’t take it as proof you failed — recall your commitment and re-choose.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Memory cleaning (releasing the past)
Identify a grievance you are still carrying and practice releasing it rather than replaying it.
Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation - Take a structured time-out
Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - Restructure the provocative appraisal
Identify the hot thought that amplifies anger and test a more accurate alternative.
Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical - E — Empathize with the offender
Try to understand the pressures, fears, or story behind what they did — without excusing it.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model
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Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
R — Recall the hurt
- How Do I Deal With Holding Onto Anger And Resentment
Identify a grievance you are still carrying and practice releasing it rather than replaying it.
Memory cleaning (releasing the past)
- How To Cope With Anger
Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
Prepare coping self-talk in advance
- How To Cope With Anger Stage Of Grief
Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
- How To Cope With Repressed Anger
Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
- Ways To Deal With Repressed Anger
When unjustified anger urges attack, gently avoid, withdraw, or take the other person’s side a little.
Soften when anger says attack
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