Coaching practices for How Do You Tell Your Child They Are Terrible at Something
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- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- I keep telling my kid they’re so smart, so gifted
- I praise my kid constantly
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
Practices that may help
- Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Praise process, not innate ability
Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".
Growth Mindset: The Honest Version - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Focus on solutions, not blame
Ask "What can we do to fix this?" rather than "Why did you do that?" — one opens, the other closes.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Contribution Praise Children
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Encourage specific contributions and efforts
- How To Praise Children Effectively
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
- When Natural Logical Consequences Encouragement Not Praise
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- When Special Time Sportscasting
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Sportscast what you see rather than directing
- When The Nurtured Heart Approach Experiential Recognition Nha
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
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