Coaching practices for How Hard Should a Goal Be

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• I keep setting goals I’m sure to hit so I never feel like a failure, and then I coast
• The goal I set is so big it feels impossible, so some part of me has already given up before I start
• I set a hard number on something I’ve genuinely never done before, and now I’m anxious and frozen
• I set these big ambitious goals but the moment the first real obstacle shows up I quietly let them shrink
• The moment a goal gets hard I lose all sense of why I’m even doing it

Practices that may help

1. Calibrate stretch with a target score
   Aim where hitting ~70% is a strong result, so comfort means you aimed too low.
   OKRs for People, Not Just Companies
2. Achievable — set it within reach, but honestly
   Calibrate the goal to your real resources so effort feels worth starting.
   SMART Goals That Actually Move
3. Use learning goals instead of performance goals on novel tasks
   When the skill is new, a "figure out how to do X" goal outperforms "achieve X by date."
   Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire
4. Build genuine commitment before the work begins
   Goal commitment is the moderator — without it, a hard goal backfires.
   Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical
5. Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
   Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
6. Set specific, hard goals rather than "do your best"
   Replace vague aspirations with a precise, stretching target — this is the core lever.
   Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical
7. Make process goals behaviorally specific enough to direct attention
   A vague process goal ("try harder") is not a process goal — it must specify what to do with your body and attention.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
8. Sidestep the SMART pitfalls
   Use SMART to clarify execution — not to shrink your ambition or freeze your goal.
   SMART Goals That Actually Move
9. Relevant — anchor it to what you actually want
   Confirm the goal serves a value or larger aim you genuinely hold.
   SMART Goals That Actually Move
10. Make stretch goals specific, not just big
    A stretch goal must be specific and measurable to trigger the mechanisms that make it work.
    Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire

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