Coaching practices for How Long Does it Take to Get Over a Divorce Emotionally

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• After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
• The big blowup is over but I’m completely wrung out
• Right now this feels like the end of the world, completely consuming, and I’m about to react like everything rides on it
• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• I hear myself snapping at them over the dishes again, but that’s not what it’s about at all

Practices that may help

1. Repair quickly and thoroughly
   Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
2. Recover and recharge after intense emotion
   After an emotional peak, deliberately allow recovery time — intense arousal depletes resources.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
3. Temporal distancing — the 10-year question
   Ask how you will see this situation in 10 years to reduce current emotional intensity.
   Self-Distancing Journaling
4. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
5. Access and name the underlying attachment emotion
   Beneath the surface argument is a primary emotion -- usually fear, longing, or grief -- that drives the cycle.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
6. Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
   Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson, is a couples intervention grounded in attachment theory: it treats distress in close relationships as an attachment injury, and focuses on creating new emotional experiences that rebuild the sense of safe, reliable connection. EFT has one of the stronger evidence bases in couples therapy, with multiple randomized controlled trials showing sustained improvement -- though findings are not uniformly positive and many studies are small.
7. Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness
   Recognize a drift in erotic connection as normal — and name it as the beginning of a renewal, not a failure.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
8. Repair an attachment injury
   Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
9. Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
   Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
10. Create corrective emotional experiences together
    The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
    Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair

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