Coaching practices for How to Move on From Husband's Emotional Affair

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• There was one moment when I needed them most
• I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
• People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• After the baby, the move, the hard year, we just quietly stopped reaching for each other

Practices that may help

1. Repair an attachment injury
   Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
2. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
3. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
   Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
4. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
5. Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
   Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), developed by Sue Johnson, is a couples intervention grounded in attachment theory: it treats distress in close relationships as an attachment injury, and focuses on creating new emotional experiences that rebuild the sense of safe, reliable connection. EFT has one of the stronger evidence bases in couples therapy, with multiple randomized controlled trials showing sustained improvement -- though findings are not uniformly positive and many studies are small.
6. The Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle, Explained
   The pursuer-withdrawer cycle is a relationship distress pattern where one partner escalates bids for connection while the other retreats — each move intensifying the other’s fear. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) treats it as the primary "demon dialogue" and shows that naming the cycle as a shared enemy, then speaking from underlying attachment needs rather than surface protest, is the move that breaks it.
7. Rekindling after a drift: returning to aliveness
   Recognize a drift in erotic connection as normal — and name it as the beginning of a renewal, not a failure.
   Mating in Captivity: Sustaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships
8. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
   Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
9. Create corrective emotional experiences together
   The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
10. Correct computing by adding the emotional layer
    When you’ve gone cold and logical, add the feeling that’s driving the analysis.
    The Satir Model

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