Coaching practices for How Should Hr Handle Harassment in the Workplace

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• I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
• Someone got mocked or shut down in our last meeting and I let it slide to avoid the awkwardness
• Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
• There’s one person on my team everyone’s decided is just a complainer, and I keep noticing they’re actually pointing at the thing nobody wants to face
• Once a fight gets going I can feel I’ve passed the point where anything good comes out of my mouth, but I don’t know how to step away without it looking like I’m storming off or quitting on the person.

Practices that may help

1. Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
   Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
2. Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
   When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
   The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
3. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
   Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
4. Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
   Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
5. Take a structured time-out
   Exit the provocation situation temporarily with a plan to re-engage — not as avoidance, but as arousal regulation.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
6. Respond non-punitively to mistakes
   When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
   Psychological Safety in Teams
7. Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
   The Harvard "Difficult Conversations" framework says every hard talk is really three at once — what happened, the feelings involved, and what it means for each person’s identity. The shift that changes everything is moving from blame to contribution and from arguing your story to learning theirs. It is a practitioner framework grounded in negotiation theory rather than controlled trials.
8. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
9. Ask the three restorative questions
   Start every harm conversation with: who was hurt, what do they need, and who is responsible for meeting those needs?
   Restorative Justice (Howard Zehr)
10. Develop challenger safety — dissent and challenge are welcomed, not punished
    Create an environment where questioning decisions, challenging leaders, and dissenting are genuinely safe.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety

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