Coaching practices for How to Accept Feedback

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• I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
• The instant someone gives me hard feedback I’m already explaining and defending myself
• The second someone suggests something, I’m already arguing back in my head
• I need to ask someone to change something, but the moment I lead with the criticism they go defensive and dig in
• When someone critiques my work I either avoid asking for it at all, or I fixate on whether it means I’m bad at this

Practices that may help

1. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
2. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
3. Receive every suggestion with only "thank you"
   Accept all feedforward without debate, justification, or even agreement — just acknowledge and note.
   Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
4. Apply reciprocity in feedback conversations
   Offer a genuine concession or acknowledgment of your own role before asking someone to change.
   The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical
5. Feedback: extract the signal, ignore the noise
   Seek feedback fast, but use the part that actually tells you how to improve.
   Ultralearning: Aggressive, Self-Directed Learning
6. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
7. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
   Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
8. Ask for feedback before you give it
   Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
9. Affirm before receiving critical feedback
   Do a brief values reflection before reading a critical evaluation so you can take in the information rather than defend against it.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
10. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
    Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical

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