Coaching practices for How to Approach My Teenage Child Who Never Shares His Feelings but is Otherwise Fine
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- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- When I ask my kid about their day I get one-word answers, and I realize I only ever ask about homework and chores
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
Practices that may help
- Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
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