Coaching practices for How to Be More Attractive at Work

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• I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet
• I keep delivering work I’m proud of and it somehow lands flat with my boss, and I’m realizing I have no real idea what they’re actually being judged on or pressured about
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• I could list ten things that went wrong at work today without blinking but I’d struggle to name one that went right
• I walk into conversations preoccupied with how I’m coming across

Practices that may help

1. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
   The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
2. Map your manager’s top three priorities
   Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
3. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Apply three good things to work contexts specifically
   Use the exercise to rewire what you notice about your work day — contribution, competence, and collaboration.
   Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
5. Become genuinely interested in other people
   You make more friends in two months by being interested in others than in two years trying to make them interested in you.
   How to Win Friends and Influence People, Made Practical
6. Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
   Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
7. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
   Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
8. The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
   Elliot Aronson’s 1966 "pratfall effect" found that competent people become more likeable when they commit a minor blunder, while the same blunder makes low-competence people less likeable. The core finding is real, though replications have refined its limits: the effect is strongest when perceived competence is already high, and strategic "vulnerability performance" without genuine competence tends to backfire.
9. Signal credibility without claiming it
   Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
10. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss

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