Coaching practices for How to Be More Reliable in a Relationship

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• I say "I’ll send that over" or "I’ll get to it" and then a bunch of those little things quietly slip my mind
• In the moment I love making the big enthusiastic promise
• We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
• I figure my partner just knows I’m in this and committed, so I almost never actually say it out loud anymore
• We pass each other like roommates these days, connection only happening if it randomly happens, and there’s no reliable little moment that’s just ours

Practices that may help

1. Build reliability through small, visible commitments
   Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
2. Build reliability by making smaller, keepable promises
   Under-promise consistently, then exceed rather than over-promise and fall short.
   The Trust Triangle
3. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
   Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
   The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
4. Give regular assurances of commitment
   Explicitly remind your partner of your love, commitment, and investment in the relationship.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
5. Build rituals of connection and shared meaning
   Create repeatable rituals that signal the relationship is a priority.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
6. Choose a partner who will actually hold the line
   Pick someone invested enough to ask hard questions, not a friend who will let it slide.
   Accountability Partners
7. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
8. Build sincerity by saying only what you mean
   Only make commitments and assertions you actually believe — and retract the ones you don’t.
   The Trust Triangle
9. Build secure-functioning habits
   Practice the behaviors of secure attachment — reliability, responsiveness, repair — on purpose.
   Attachment Theory, Made Usable
10. Invest in the relationship before you need it
    Build relational credit through reliability and initiative, not charm or performance alone.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical

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