Coaching practices for How to Be Relatable as a Leader
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around
- Where I come alive is in the human glue
- I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet
- I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
- I’m supposed to rally my team behind a directive I don’t actually understand or believe in myself, and they can feel the hollowness in how I deliver it
Practices that may help
- Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Lead from the relationship building domain — hold the team together
People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical - Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Believe — and make the why clear
You cannot lead people toward a mission you do not understand or believe in yourself.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical - Influence through persuasion, not positional power
Build consensus and convince rather than command — authority is the last resort, not the first.
Servant Leadership, Made Practical - Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Treat each person as an individual with distinct needs and aspirations
Know what each team member needs to grow and provide support tailored to them.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Put the growth of others first
Start from "how do I help this person succeed?" rather than "how do they help me succeed?"
Servant Leadership, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Authentic Leadership
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
- Leadership Delivery
People strong in executing know how to take an idea and make it happen.
Lead from the executing domain — deliver on goals consistently
- Personalized Leadership
Know what each team member needs to grow and provide support tailored to them.
Treat each person as an individual with distinct needs and aspirations
- How Do I Become A Leader
Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
- Identity Based Leadership
Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
Distinguish your self from your role
- Leader Development Culture
Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
Deliberately expand your inner circle
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