Coaching practices for Identity Based Leadership
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Identity Based Leadership, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When someone attacks a decision I made it lands like they’re attacking who I am, and I go straight to defensive or wrecked
- I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around
- I treat my whole team the same way and run the same kind of one-on-one with everyone, and it’s landing flat
- Where I come alive is in the human glue
- I keep catching myself making calls based on how they’ll make me look rather than what’s actually best for the thing I’m building
Practices that may help
- Distinguish your self from your role
Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Treat each person as an individual with distinct needs and aspirations
Know what each team member needs to grow and provide support tailored to them.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Lead from the relationship building domain — hold the team together
People strong in relationship building are the glue that holds a team’s cohesion under pressure.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Channel ambition to the institution, not yourself
Care more about the organization’s success than your personal legacy.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Identify your dominant leadership strengths — and lead from them
Know which of the four leadership domains you naturally operate from and amplify it rather than trying to be equally strong in all four.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Build a team whose combined strengths cover all four domains
Hire and assemble deliberately for domain coverage, not for people who think like you.
Strengths-Based Leadership, Made Practical - Activate unity — shared identity before the message
Establish genuine shared identity with your audience before presenting your position.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Personalized Leadership
Know what each team member needs to grow and provide support tailored to them.
Treat each person as an individual with distinct needs and aspirations
- Authentic Leadership
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
- Compounding Leadership
Know which of the four leadership domains you naturally operate from and amplify it rather than trying to be equally strong in all four.
Identify your dominant leadership strengths — and lead from them
- Expand Inner Circle Leadership
Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
Deliberately expand your inner circle
- Full Range Leadership Model
The skill the model actually demands is style range — most leaders overuse one default.
Build the flexibility to switch styles
- How To Be Relatable As A Leader
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
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