Coaching practices for How to Control Your Emotions

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  • I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
  • When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
  • When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story
  • Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought
  • I try to keep the emotion out and stay reasonable, but it never actually stays out

Practices that may help

  1. Self-awareness
    Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  2. Mindfulness of the current emotion
    Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  3. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
    After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  4. Self-regulation
    Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  5. Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
    Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
    Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
  6. Observe the emotion without feeding it
    When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
  7. P — Proceed Mindfully: Act from Wisdom, Not Impulse
    After observing, ask: "What action is consistent with my goals and values right now?" — then act on that.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  8. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
    Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  9. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
    When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
    Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
  10. Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
    Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
    Emotional Agility, Made Practical

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