Coaching practices for How to Control Your Emotions Like Ayanokoji

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• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now
• When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story
• I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
• I’ve managed to pause and breathe, but now I’m frozen

Practices that may help

1. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
2. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
   When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
   Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
3. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
   After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
4. Self-awareness
   Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
   Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
5. P — Proceed Mindfully: Act from Wisdom, Not Impulse
   After observing, ask: "What action is consistent with my goals and values right now?" — then act on that.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
6. Observe the emotion without feeding it
   When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
7. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
   Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
8. Non-grasping awareness: letting arise and pass
   Watch thoughts, sensations, and emotions arise and dissolve without grabbing or pushing.
   Shikantaza: Just Sitting
9. TIPP: Rapid Physiological De-escalation for Intense Distress
   Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to bring crisis-level emotion down quickly.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
10. Expand the IZOF profile to include positive and negative emotions
    Map which emotions — not just anxiety — are functional for your performance, and which are dysfunctional.
    The Zone of Optimal Functioning: Hanin’s IZOF Model

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