Coaching practices for How to Control Emotions
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- When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
- When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story
- I’ll snap at someone or make a bad call and only realize hours later that I was already in a mood the whole time
- Something sets me off and I’m already reacting before I’ve even thought
- I try to keep the emotion out and stay reasonable, but it never actually stays out
Practices that may help
- Mindfulness of the current emotion
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - Self-awareness
Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Self-regulation
Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical - Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical - Observe the emotion without feeding it
When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical - Check the facts and opposite action
Test whether an emotion fits the facts; if it doesn’t, act opposite to its urge to change it.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical - P — Proceed Mindfully: Act from Wisdom, Not Impulse
After observing, ask: "What action is consistent with my goals and values right now?" — then act on that.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - Understand the function of the emotion
Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - Name what the emotion is doing in your body
Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Deal With Your Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
Mindfulness of the current emotion
- How To Control Your Emotions
Notice your emotions as they arise and recognize how they shape your judgment and behavior.
Self-awareness
- How To Deal With Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
- How To Deal With Your Emotions By Yourself
Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
N — Nurture with self-compassion
- How To Handle Emotions Biblically
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
- How To Manage Your Emotions
Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
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