Coaching practices for How to Cope with Emotional Pain and Hurt
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- I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
- I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
- It’s not just that it hurts
- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
Practices that may help
- R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Identify the meaning violation
Name specifically which of your beliefs or goals this event contradicts — that is the source of distress beyond ordinary pain.
Meaning-Making Coping, Made Practical - Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical - N — Nurture with self-compassion
Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - E — Empathize with the offender
Try to understand the pressures, fears, or story behind what they did — without excusing it.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Distinguish benefit-finding from toxic positivity
Check whether you’re finding real good or just pressuring yourself to feel fine before you do.
Benefit-Finding: Locating Meaning and Growth in Adversity - Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors
When the stressor cannot be changed, invest your energy in how you relate to the experience rather than fighting the situation.
Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Cope With Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
- How Do I Deal With Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
- How To Deal With Emotional Pain In A Healthy Way
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Give yourself permission to feel
- Acknowledge Emotional Pain
Place a hand on your heart and say, "This is a moment of suffering."
Acknowledge: name what is hard
- How Do I Overcome Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
- How Do You Deal With Emotional Pain
Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
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