Coaching practices for How to Cope with Emotions

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  • When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
  • I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
  • When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now
  • I keep making plans and trying to fix something that genuinely can’t be fixed
  • I can stay calm reading about it, but the moment I’m actually in the situation all my good intentions vanish and I react

Practices that may help

  1. Mindfulness of the current emotion
    Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  2. Give yourself permission to feel
    Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
  3. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
    When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
    Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
  4. Apply emotion-focused coping to uncontrollable stressors
    When the stressor cannot be changed, invest your energy in how you relate to the experience rather than fighting the situation.
    Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
  5. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
    Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  6. Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
    Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
  7. Observe the emotion without feeding it
    When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
  8. Apply problem-focused coping to changeable stressors
    When the stressor is changeable, direct your energy at the situation rather than managing feelings about it.
    Lazarus Appraisal Theory, Made Practical
  9. Select the specific coping skills you will use — in advance
    Choose which DBT or other coping skills you will deploy at each difficult moment, before you are in it.
    Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
  10. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
    After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments

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