Coaching practices for How to Cope with Grief
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- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- I deal with my grief by doing and fixing rather than weeping, and everyone keeps treating that as cold or in denial
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
Practices that may help
- Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Find a community that recognises your specific loss
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Validate your own grief without waiting for external permission
Give yourself the recognition that society has withheld — your loss is real because it matters to you.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Practice speaking about the loss to people outside your immediate circle
Gradually widen the circle of people who know about the loss and can offer recognition.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Identify how cultural norms shape your grief
Examine whether cultural scripts about how long and how much to grieve are shaping your experience.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How Do I Cope With Grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
- How To Cope With Grief Alone
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Find a community that recognises your specific loss
- How To Cope With Grief And Depression
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
- How To Cope With Grief And Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- How To Get Over Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How To Get Over Grief Fast
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Havening to soften acute grief activation
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