Coaching practices for How to Deal with a Possibly Autistic Colleague That Seems to Be Fixated on Me
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My attention feels welded to the inside of my own head
- The moment I’m in a room with people I’m trapped watching myself
- Once my attention locks onto the thing I’m scared of, I genuinely can’t pry it loose
- Once my mind latches onto a worry I genuinely cannot pry it loose
- The whole time someone’s talking to me I’m watching myself from the outside
Practices that may help
- Attention training technique (ATT)
Practice deliberately shifting attention across sounds — a drill that builds attention flexibility and reduces self-focus.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Metacognitive Therapy, Made Practical - Train flexible attention
Practise deliberately moving attention between external cues and internal experience — and back.
Detached Mindfulness, Made Practical - Rapid attention shifting between sounds
Switch attention between sound sources on cue, making each shift deliberate and immediate.
Attention Training Technique (ATT), Made Practical - Shift attention from self to situation
Redirect your attention from monitoring yourself to genuinely engaging with the other person.
Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework - Selective attention to individual sounds
Deliberately focus on one distinct sound source among several and hold attention there.
Attention Training Technique (ATT), Made Practical - Orient toward another person’s need
When hyperreflecting, ask: who needs something from me right now, and what specifically do they need?
Logotherapy: Dereflection - Recall how little you notice others
Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Shift attention outward during social situations
Direct your focus to what the other person is saying and feeling, not to how you appear.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Redirect from self-focus to external attention
When anxiety spikes, deliberately anchor attention to a specific external sound or object.
Attention Training Technique (ATT), Made Practical
Related concerns
- Attention Shifting Anxiety
Switch attention between sound sources on cue, making each shift deliberate and immediate.
Rapid attention shifting between sounds
- Self Focused Attention Anxiety
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
Situational attentional refocusing: shift from self to situation
- Self Focused Attention Social Anxiety
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
- Self Focused Attention Treatment
Practice deliberately shifting attention across sounds — a drill that builds attention flexibility and reduces self-focus.
Attention training technique (ATT)
- Attention Redirection Anxiety
In anxiety-provoking situations, actively redirect attention outward — to the task, the other person, the environment.
- Attention Training Social Anxiety
The Attention Training Technique (ATT), developed by Adrian Wells, is a structured auditory exercise that rebuilds voluntary control over where attention goes — directly countering the self-focused, threat-locked attention that sustains anxiety and health anxiety. Randomised trials support its effectiveness as a standalone and as part of Metacognitive Therapy.
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