Coaching practices for How to Deal with My Emotions

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  • When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
  • I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
  • I try to keep the emotion out and stay reasonable, but it never actually stays out
  • When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story
  • When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now

Practices that may help

  1. Mindfulness of the current emotion
    Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  2. Give yourself permission to feel
    Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
  3. Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
    Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
    Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
  4. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
    After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  5. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
    When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
    Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
  6. N — Nurture with self-compassion
    Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
    RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
  7. P — Proceed Mindfully: Act from Wisdom, Not Impulse
    After observing, ask: "What action is consistent with my goals and values right now?" — then act on that.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  8. A — Allow the experience to be as it is
    Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
    RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
  9. Mindful awareness of suffering
    Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
    Self-Compassion, Made Practical
  10. Map your emotional landscape
    Identify which situations reliably produce which emotions for you — before you need to regulate them.
    Situation Selection, Made Practical

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