Coaching practices for How to Handle Emotions Biblically

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• When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story
• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• I try to keep the emotion out and stay reasonable, but it never actually stays out
• It’s never the logistics that wreck me, it’s the feeling
• The fear tells me to avoid and the hurt tells me to lash out, and every time I obey the urge it just feeds the feeling bigger

Practices that may help

1. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
   After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
2. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
3. Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
   Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
   Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
4. Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
   Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
5. Check the facts and opposite action
   Test whether an emotion fits the facts; if it doesn’t, act opposite to its urge to change it.
   Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
6. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
   When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
   Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
7. P — Proceed Mindfully: Act from Wisdom, Not Impulse
   After observing, ask: "What action is consistent with my goals and values right now?" — then act on that.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
8. N — Nurture with self-compassion
   Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
9. Understand the function of the emotion
   Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
10. Give yourself permission to feel
    Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical

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