Coaching practices for How to Decide What Matters

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  • Whenever I try to narrow down what matters most I can’t bring myself to actually cut anything
  • I look at all the areas where I’m falling short and try to fix everything at once, and end up moving nothing
  • Everything on my plate feels like it has to happen right now, so I just chase whatever’s loudest
  • I end most days exhausted and still feel like I touched nothing that matters
  • I’m frozen on a decision where honoring one thing I care about means shortchanging another

Practices that may help

  1. Circle your top 5 without negotiating
    From 25, choose exactly 5 — the ones you’d feel worst about not doing.
    Warren Buffett’s Two-List Strategy
  2. Choose one domain to move toward the bullseye this week
    Pick the domain where a small move would matter most — not the most important one in the abstract.
    Values Bullseye, Made Practical
  3. Sort tasks by the importance-urgency matrix
    Classify every demand on your time by whether it is important AND/OR urgent before deciding when to do it.
    Big Rocks First
  4. Sort by importance before urgency
    Ask "does this matter for what I’m actually trying to achieve?" before asking "is this due soon?"
    The Eisenhower Matrix and Delegation
  5. Resolving a decision with two competing values
    When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
    Values Card Sort
  6. Sort by urgent vs important
    Ask two separate questions of every task: does it matter, and does it need to happen now?
    The Eisenhower Matrix, Made Practical
  7. Identify the single most important output for today
    Choose one task that, if completed, would make the day a success regardless of everything else.
    Essentialism: The Art of Eliminating the Non-Essential
  8. Highlight: choose one priority
    Each morning, pick a single most-meaningful thing you want to make time for today.
    Make Time, Made Practical
  9. Align spending deliberately with stated values
    Review each discretionary category against what you say matters most — and cut what doesn’t match.
    The Latte Factor: Small Spending and the Cost of Habit
  10. Using values questions to deepen a conversation
    Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
    Values Card Sort

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