Coaching practices for How to Enable Child to Deal with Name Calling
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- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- My kid melts down and my instinct is to fix it or shut it down fast, and the tantrum just gets bigger
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- My child has these huge feelings with no words for them
- There are certain moments
Practices that may help
- Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Help the child label the emotion with words
Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Identify the lagging skill behind the behavior
Name the cognitive skill the child is missing, not the behavior you want to stop.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
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Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
Refuse to energize negative behavior
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
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Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
- Empathic Listening Children
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Listen empathically and validate the feeling
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Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
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