Coaching practices for What Should You Do After You've Raised Your Voice at Your Child
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- When my kid acts out I lose it
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- I keep trying to reason with my kid right in the middle of the meltdown
Practices that may help
- Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Give clear, calm, single instructions
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Soften when anger says attack
When unjustified anger urges attack, gently avoid, withdraw, or take the other person’s side a little.
Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge - Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition
Catch the child not misbehaving and name the success explicitly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
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All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
- How Do We Stop Our Child Screeching
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
- How Do You Stop A Child From Using Bad Language And Profanity
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
Refuse to energize negative behavior
- How Do You Teach A Child To Call For Help
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- How To Deal With My Childs Anger Issues
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
- How To Enable Child To Deal With Name Calling
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
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