Coaching practices for How to Get Honest Answer Performance

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• Whenever I ask people how I’m doing I just get vague, polite reassurance
• The honest answer here is that they don’t really need me
• When I do this alone in my head it’s too easy to let myself off the hook and skate past the uncomfortable parts
• When I finally say the hard thing it comes out as my blunt conclusion delivered like a verdict, and the other person’s walls go straight up
• My real decisions take months to resolve and matter too much for me to score them honestly, so I never get clean reps

Practices that may help

1. Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
   Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
   The Johari Window
2. Give away the answer even when it costs you
   When the right answer reduces your value or authority, give it anyway — that act is the trust signal.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
3. Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions
   A review held privately is easier to fudge; one shared with an honest questioner is harder to rationalize.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
4. STATE your path
   Share your view honestly but in a way that keeps the other person open: facts first, then story, tentatively.
   Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
5. Build calibration reps with low-stakes trivia and almanac questions
   Use factual trivia questions as a practice ground for calibration — outcomes resolve immediately and the stakes are zero.
   Calibration Training
6. Debrief against process goals, not just the outcome
   After performance, evaluate whether you executed your process goals before evaluating the result.
   Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
7. Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
   Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
   The Platinum Rule
8. Create safety for an honest account before expecting one
   People who expect punishment for missing a commitment will not tell you the real reason they missed it.
   Crucial Accountability: Holding People to Commitments That Matter
9. Agree in advance on what good performance looks like
   Performance conversations go badly because the standard was never made explicit — the reprimand is the first time it is stated.
   The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
10. Say "I don’t know" when you genuinely don’t
    Admitting the limits of your knowledge signals intellectual honesty and raises long-term credibility.
    The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical

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