Coaching practices for Ask for Honest Feedback

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I dish out plenty of feedback but I’ve never once asked my team to tell me what I’m getting wrong, and I think that’s exactly why they don’t trust that honesty around here is safe
• When I do this alone in my head it’s too easy to let myself off the hook and skate past the uncomfortable parts
• I have something honest I need to tell someone, and I’m stuck on how to say it
• Whenever I ask people how I’m doing I just get vague, polite reassurance
• The instant someone gives me hard feedback I’m already explaining and defending myself

Practices that may help

1. Ask for feedback before you give it
   Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
2. Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions
   A review held privately is easier to fudge; one shared with an honest questioner is harder to rationalize.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
3. Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
   Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
   The Platinum Rule
4. Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
   Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
   The Johari Window
5. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
6. Apply reciprocity in feedback conversations
   Offer a genuine concession or acknowledgment of your own role before asking someone to change.
   The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical
7. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
8. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
9. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
10. Make feedback flow in both directions
    Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
    Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical

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