Coaching practices for How to Get Over Breakup Book

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• Once the hard thing is over I just want to bury it and never think about it again
• After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
• There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us
• After a rejection or a bad day my mind spins the same dark story on a loop and I can’t find where it’s actually going wrong
• Something I built my life around has ended

Practices that may help

1. Review what happened after the event to refine the next cope ahead
   Compare how you actually coped to your plan — the gap is your next training target.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
2. Repair quickly and thoroughly
   Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
3. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
   Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
4. USA journaling: write your way to acceptance
   After a failure or rejection, write out the ABC chain and the USA disputation before bed.
   Unconditional Self-Acceptance
5. Reframing loss as transformation
   When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
   Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift
6. Use symbolic objects as tangible continuing bonds
   Keep meaningful objects that represent the person and use them consciously, not compulsively.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
7. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
   Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
8. Withdrawer: signal presence before retreating
   Before you need to step back, tell your partner you are coming back.
   The Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle, Explained
9. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
10. Take the fly-on-the-wall perspective
    Replay a distressing event as a distant observer watching from afar, not from inside your own eyes.
    Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems

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