Coaching practices for How to Handle Emotions After Abortion
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- I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
- At my kid’s graduation, at a goodbye, I feel proud and gutted in the same breath and I don’t know what to do with both
- The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
- Something I built my life around has ended
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
Practices that may help
- Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Holding joy and sadness simultaneously
When you notice a joyful experience that also carries loss, resist the urge to choose one emotion over the other.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Havening to soften acute grief activation
Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - N — Nurture with self-compassion
Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Give yourself permission to feel
Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
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- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
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When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
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Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Find a community that recognises your specific loss
- How To Move On From Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How To Overcome Grief And Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How To Overcome Grief Of Losing A Pet
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
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