Coaching practices for How to Handle Emotions at Work

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• I try to keep the emotion out and stay reasonable, but it never actually stays out
• I’m about to walk into something where I genuinely can’t let what I’m feeling show
• I spend all day arranging my face into the cheerful, capable version everyone expects while I feel nothing like it inside, and holding that mask up hour after hour is leaving me hollowed out and weirdly unsure of what I even feel underneath it anymore.
• I treat my own bad moods as background static to just power through, and then I’m baffled when my focus and drive keep collapsing
• My boss is clearly frustrated and I can feel it, but naming their feeling out loud to someone above me feels presumptuous, even risky

Practices that may help

1. Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
   Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
   Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
2. Find alternatives to expressive suppression in high-stakes moments
   When you must manage what you show, use reappraisal or slow your breath rather than white-knuckling the expression down.
   Cognitive Reappraisal vs. Suppression, Made Practical
3. Stop surface acting
   Recognize when you’re masking emotions at work or in relationships, and find low-cost outlets for what you actually feel.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
4. Manage emotional energy
   Cultivate positive emotional states deliberately, since they fuel performance and connection.
   The Power of Full Engagement, Made Practical
5. Use labeling across power asymmetries — with care
   Labeling your senior’s frustration is more delicate than labeling a peer’s — name the stakes, not just the feeling.
   Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
6. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
   Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
7. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
   Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
8. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
   Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
9. Red hat: name the emotions without justifying them
   Give feelings a legitimate place in the discussion — the red hat makes emotional data explicit so it stops running covertly.
   Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical
10. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
    After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments

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