Coaching practices for How to Handle Your Emotions When Triggered

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  • Something just set me off and I can feel it surging right now
  • My blowups feel like they come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to notice it’s always the same setups
  • When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now
  • When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
  • I’ve stopped myself from reacting, but I’m still standing right there in it

Practices that may help

  1. Observe the emotion without feeding it
    When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
  2. Map your personal emotion triggers
    Know which situations, times of day, and states reliably trigger your most intense emotions — so you can intervene upstream.
    The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
  3. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
    When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
    Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
  4. Mindfulness of the current emotion
    Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  5. T — Take a Step Back: Create Physical and Mental Space
    Step back from the situation — physically if possible, mentally always — to interrupt the reactive loop.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  6. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
    After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  7. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
    Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  8. Map your anger triggers
    Build a personal inventory of the situations, people, and thoughts that reliably ignite your anger.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  9. Self-regulation
    Manage disruptive impulses and moods so you respond by choice rather than reflex.
    Emotional Intelligence, Made Practical
  10. Prepare coping self-talk in advance
    Script what you’ll say to yourself at each stage of an anger escalation before it happens.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical

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