Coaching practices for How to Handle Emotions When Triggered

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• Something just set me off and I can feel it surging right now
• My blowups feel like they come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to notice it’s always the same setups
• When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now
• When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
• When I’m upset I’m completely fused with the story

Practices that may help

1. Observe the emotion without feeding it
   When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
2. Map your personal emotion triggers
   Know which situations, times of day, and states reliably trigger your most intense emotions — so you can intervene upstream.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
3. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
   When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
   Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
4. Mindfulness of the current emotion
   Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
5. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
   After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
6. Name the emotion and what triggered it
   Start by identifying the emotion specifically and the event that preceded it — without mixing interpretation in.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
7. T — Take a Step Back: Create Physical and Mental Space
   Step back from the situation — physically if possible, mentally always — to interrupt the reactive loop.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
8. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
   Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
   Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
9. Check the facts first
   Decide whether the emotion actually fits the situation before doing anything about it.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
10. Check the facts
    Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical

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