Coaching practices for How to Have Presence

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m nodding along in conversations but my mind is already somewhere else
• When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
• I try to bring up the thing that really matters while the other person is half-looking at their phone or rushing between tasks, and then I’m puzzled why it doesn’t register
• I keep trying to win people over with one big impressive gesture and it never seems to stick
• Right before I walk into the presentation I’m jittery and small, and I want a quiet minute on my own to physically settle into feeling steady and grounded, so all the prep I did actually shows up instead of getting swallowed by nerves.

Practices that may help

1. Cultivate presence
   Be fully here — undivided attention is the rarest and most flattering gift you can give.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
2. Convey power
   Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
3. Create a privileged moment — a context of undivided focus
   Secure genuine attention before delivering your most important message.
   Pre-Suasion, Made Practical
4. Show up consistently to build familiarity and trust over time
   Regular, low-key presence across time increases liking without any single memorable moment.
   The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical
5. Set your posture before high-stakes moments
   Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
6. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
7. Listen charismatically
   Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
8. Signal credibility without claiming it
   Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
9. Bring contemplative attention to ordinary moments
   Practice full presence in mundane activities as a form of sacred attentiveness.
   The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical
10. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
    Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical

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