Coaching practices for The Charisma Myth at Work

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  • I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
  • When I walk into a room with people who outrank me I seem to shrink
  • I say one slightly awkward thing and then completely unravel
  • People tell me I come across as cold or standoffish when I don’t mean to at all
  • I’m new on this team and tempted to lead with how relatable and human I am, but nobody’s seen me actually deliver yet

Practices that may help

  1. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
    Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
  2. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
    Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
  3. Convey power
    Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
  4. Recover gracefully from awkward moments
    How you handle a slip-up signals more about your status than the slip itself.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
  5. Project warmth
    Signal that you like and accept the person — warmth is goodwill made visible.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
  6. Build a credibility foundation before showing vulnerability
    The pratfall effect only works if people already perceive you as competent — so earn that first.
    The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
  7. Listen charismatically
    Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
  8. Understand the "become it" claim accurately
    Sustained behavioral practice of confidence — acting as if — can build real self-efficacy over time, through mastery experiences rather than pose duration.
    Power Posing Revisited
  9. Signal credibility without claiming it
    Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
    The Trust Equation, Made Practical
  10. Conduct a randomness audit of outcomes you’re explaining
    Before attributing an outcome to skill, strategy, or character, estimate how much of it could be chance.
    The Narrative Fallacy: Why We Can’t Stop Making Stories

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