Coaching practices for How to Live with Relationship Ocd

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• A nagging thought or urge takes hold and the only way I get relief is to do the ritual
• We pass each other like roommates these days, connection only happening if it randomly happens, and there’s no reliable little moment that’s just ours
• We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot
• My partner and I have boiled our talking down to schedules and chores, and it hit me that the version of them in my head is years out of date
• When things get stressful and busy, the warmth in my relationship is the first casualty because I have no energy left to be deliberate about it

Practices that may help

1. Exposure and response prevention (ERP) for OCD-like patterns
   Trigger obsessional distress, then refrain from the compulsive or avoidant response.
   Exposure Therapy: Facing Fears to Shrink Them
2. Build rituals of connection and shared meaning
   Create repeatable rituals that signal the relationship is a priority.
   The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships
3. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
   Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
   The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
4. Practice openness through regular self-disclosure
   Share your thoughts, feelings, and daily experiences — not just problems.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
5. Build small positive rituals that generate surplus passively
   Recurring small rituals deposit into the positive account without requiring sustained conscious effort.
   The Magic Relationship Ratio: Gottman's 5-to-1 Principle
6. Behavioral confirmation audit: how are you treating your partner?
   Regularly examine whether your daily behavior toward your partner confirms their ideal self or their non-ideal self.
   The Michelangelo Phenomenon: How Partners Sculpt Each Other
7. Invest in shared social networks
   Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
8. Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
   Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
9. Dialogue with perpetual problems
   Accept that most conflicts are unsolvable, and learn to discuss them without gridlock.
   The Gottman Method, Made Practical
10. Ask genuine questions about your partner’s inner world
    Keep updating your mental model of who your partner actually is right now.
    The 5-to-1 Positivity Ratio in Relationships

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