Coaching practices for How to Move on From Past Relationship Trauma
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- I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
- After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
- The life I’d assumed I’d have is just gone, and as devastating as that is, I’m quietly starting to notice doors I never would have looked at before
- The hard things that happened to me float around with no order, like they’re still happening now rather than back then
- There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us
Practices that may help
- R — Recall the hurt
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
Forgiveness: The REACH Model - Repair quickly and thoroughly
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Domain 2 — New possibilities
When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Construct a lifeline
Lay out your entire life chronologically using symbolic markers — stones for traumatic events, flowers for positive ones.
Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story - Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Understand what PTG is — and is not
Growth from struggling with trauma is real, but it is not guaranteed, not required, and not a silver lining.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Installation of the Positive Cognition
Once distress has cleared, strengthen the preferred self-belief with bilateral stimulation.
EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing - Cultivate a past-positive lens
Actively remember experiences, relationships, and strengths from the past that support rather than undermine you.
Time Perspective Therapy - Narrate the trauma in chronological order within its life context
Tell the story of a traumatic event — before, during, and after — in the context of the surrounding life.
Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story - Safe Place Installation
Anchor a vivid, calming mental image you can return to when distress spikes during processing.
EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
Related concerns
- How To Move On From Emotional Trauma
Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
R — Recall the hurt
- Existential Change After Trauma
Confronting limits and mortality can deepen or reshape your sense of meaning and the sacred.
Domain 4 — Spiritual or existential change
- How Do I Heal From Trauma Fear And The Past Completely
Imaginal exposure has the person revisit the traumatic memory in detail to allow the brain to process it as a past event.
Understand imaginal exposure: revisiting the traumatic memory deliberately
- How To Overcome Infidelity Trauma In Marriage
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Repair quickly and thoroughly
- Reinvention After Trauma
When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
Domain 2 — New possibilities
- Attachment Injury Healing
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
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