Coaching practices for How to Move on From Past Relationship Trauma

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  • I keep telling myself to just move past what they did and not make a big deal of it, so I never actually look the hurt in the face
  • After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
  • The life I’d assumed I’d have is just gone, and as devastating as that is, I’m quietly starting to notice doors I never would have looked at before
  • The hard things that happened to me float around with no order, like they’re still happening now rather than back then
  • There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us

Practices that may help

  1. R — Recall the hurt
    Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
    Forgiveness: The REACH Model
  2. Repair quickly and thoroughly
    Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
    Secure-Functioning Relationships
  3. Domain 2 — New possibilities
    When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
    Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical
  4. Construct a lifeline
    Lay out your entire life chronologically using symbolic markers — stones for traumatic events, flowers for positive ones.
    Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story
  5. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
    Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
    Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
  6. Understand what PTG is — and is not
    Growth from struggling with trauma is real, but it is not guaranteed, not required, and not a silver lining.
    Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical
  7. Installation of the Positive Cognition
    Once distress has cleared, strengthen the preferred self-belief with bilateral stimulation.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
  8. Cultivate a past-positive lens
    Actively remember experiences, relationships, and strengths from the past that support rather than undermine you.
    Time Perspective Therapy
  9. Narrate the trauma in chronological order within its life context
    Tell the story of a traumatic event — before, during, and after — in the context of the surrounding life.
    Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET): Weaving Trauma Into a Coherent Life Story
  10. Safe Place Installation
    Anchor a vivid, calming mental image you can return to when distress spikes during processing.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

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