Coaching practices for How to Overcome Infidelity Trauma in Marriage

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• After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
• There was one moment when I needed them most
• I’ve been focused on the obvious wound
• We survive the fight and then just move on like it never happened, so the same argument keeps coming back
• There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us

Practices that may help

1. Repair quickly and thoroughly
   Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
2. Repair an attachment injury
   Specific relationship betrayals -- moments when you were not there -- need a specific repair, not just time.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
3. Examine stuck points across the five disrupted domains
   CPT organizes trauma-disrupted beliefs into five domains — Safety, Trust, Power, Esteem, Intimacy — to ensure none are missed.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
4. Debrief and repair after the conflict is over
   The conversation after the fight -- done calmly -- is where lasting repair happens.
   Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
5. Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
   Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
   Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love
6. R — Recall the hurt
   Face what happened deliberately and calmly, without minimizing it or replaying it as a victim.
   Forgiveness: The REACH Model
7. Let repeated repair build earned security
   Each successful repair teaches "we can break and come back" — which is what makes a relationship feel safe.
   Rupture and Repair
8. FAST: maintaining self-respect in difficult interactions
   Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful — the self-respect compass for high-pressure conversations.
   DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
9. Catch the four horsemen
   Spot and replace criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling during conflict.
   The Gottman Method, Made Practical
10. Installation of the Positive Cognition
    Once distress has cleared, strengthen the preferred self-belief with bilateral stimulation.
    EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

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