Coaching practices for How to Receive Feedback

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• I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
• The instant someone gives me hard feedback I’m already explaining and defending myself
• My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"
• When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them
• No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above

Practices that may help

1. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
2. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
3. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
   Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
4. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
5. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
6. The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
   The feedback sandwich (positive–negative–positive) is the dominant model for giving feedback in workplaces, but research and practitioner experience suggest it routinely fails: recipients either remember only the positive parts or dismiss the negative as softened insincerity. The practices below cover why it fails mechanistically and what specific alternatives are better supported.
7. Make feedback flow in both directions
   Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
   Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
8. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
   Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
9. Ask for ideas about the future, not assessments of the past
   Replace "how did I do?" with "what ideas do you have for how I could do better?"
   Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
10. Give feedback in the moment, not stockpiled for reviews
    Feedback accumulated for a periodic review arrives late and in bulk — neither helps.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead

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