Coaching practices for How to Repair a Friendship with a Friend
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- There’s someone I used to be close to and now there’s this awkward gap between us
- Things have gone cool and stiff with someone and we’re both just frozen, neither willing to make the first move or have the awkward talk
- After we fight we just let it sit for days with neither of us reaching out, and the hurt quietly piles up until I start reading even neutral things they do as another little jab
- Things with my manager have gone cold and transactional, and we’re both just avoiding it and quietly resenting each other
- When they try to make peace mid-fight with a joke or a softer tone, part of me wants to swat it away because it doesn't feel like enough
Practices that may help
- Repairing rifts before they harden
Reach out to mend strained or drifted relationships rather than letting them calcify.
The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study - Use a small ask to repair a strained relationship
In a cool or conflicted relationship, asking for a small favor can reset the dynamic more effectively than doing one.
The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical - Repair quickly and thoroughly
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Accept imperfect repair attempts
Reject a clumsy repair attempt and you teach your partner to stop trying.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships - Make (and accept) repair attempts
A repair attempt is any bid to de-escalate — a joke, a softened tone, a hand reached out — and accepting one matters as much as making it.
Rupture and Repair - Reconnect emotionally before solving the issue
Restore the bond first; the problem is far easier to discuss from connection than from threat.
Rupture and Repair - Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it. - Schedule deliberate investment in your important friendships
Identify your most important friendships and make a concrete plan to reach out this week — not when conditions are easier.
The Regret of the Dying - Make small repairs during conflict -- not only big apologies after
A touch, a softer tone, a brief I love you mid-argument is repair -- use it.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships
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Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
- Quick Repair Relationship
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Repair quickly and thoroughly
- Repairing Relationships
A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it.
- How To Fix My Relationship
Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
- Interpersonal Repair
A touch, a softer tone, a brief I love you mid-argument is repair -- use it.
Make small repairs during conflict -- not only big apologies after
- Relationship Conflict Repair
A repair attempt is any move -- humor, an apology, a softened tone, a bid to take a break -- that tries to lower conflict tension before it spirals. John Gottman's research found that whether couples successfully made and accepted repair attempts was a key marker separating stable from distressed couples. It is not avoiding conflict that matters most; it is the ability to repair within it.
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