Coaching practices for How to Show You Care

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I do genuinely have their back, but I assume they just know it, so I never actually show it
• My partner tells me about a stressful meeting or a worry about a friend, and a day later I’ve completely forgotten to ask how it went
• It’s not about the money
• My partner says all the sweet words, but I’m drowning in everything I’m carrying and nobody’s lifting any of it off me
• Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong

Practices that may help

1. Demonstrate care through visible acts in the other person’s interest
   Show that your interests and theirs are genuinely aligned — not only when it’s convenient.
   The Trust Triangle
2. Follow up on what your partner mentioned earlier
   Return to things your partner shared — it shows you retained and cared.
   Turning Toward: The Daily Practice That Builds Relationship Resilience
3. Receiving gifts
   Communicate care through thoughtful, symbolic gifts — the thought far more than the price.
   The Five Love Languages, Honestly
4. Acts of service
   Show love by doing things that ease your partner’s load — chores, errands, follow-through.
   The Five Love Languages, Honestly
5. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
   Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
6. Ask the people who matter to you how they are — and really listen
   Check in on someone in a way that signals they are on your mind, not just in your address book.
   Mattering: Feeling Like You Count
7. Give recognition that names the person’s specific effort, not just the outcome
   Generic praise signals you were not paying attention; specific recognition proves you were.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
8. The concentric-circle extension of ren
   Deliberately extend the quality of care you have for those closest to you toward more distant others.
   Confucian Self-Cultivation: The Mencius Approach
9. Open with appreciation before anything else
   Start by naming one genuine thing your partner did this week that you valued.
   The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected
10. Care personally
    Show you give a damn about the person, not just their output.
    Radical Candor, Made Practical

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