Coaching practices for How to Show You Care in Leadership
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I do genuinely have their back, but I assume they just know it, so I never actually show it
- My boss took a real chance on me and advocated for me, and I just took it and moved on without ever closing the loop
- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
- I realize I know exactly what each person on my team is working on this week but almost nothing about where they’re actually trying to get to in their life
Practices that may help
- Demonstrate care through visible acts in the other person’s interest
Show that your interests and theirs are genuinely aligned — not only when it’s convenient.
The Trust Triangle - Reciprocate when your leader invests in you
When a leader gives you trust, opportunity, or advocacy, close the loop with visible follow-through.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Invite clients or reports to contribute insight to your approach
Asking someone you lead for their input increases their investment in the outcome.
The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical - Leading from behind — the servant leader stance
Influence others more through example, listening, and restraint than through assertion and command.
The Tao Te Ching, Made Practical - Know where care ends and overreach begins
Caring personally means being available, not being a therapist — know the limit of your role.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Treat each person as an individual with distinct needs and aspirations
Know what each team member needs to grow and provide support tailored to them.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Believe — and make the why clear
You cannot lead people toward a mission you do not understand or believe in yourself.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Authentic Leadership
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
- Demonstrate Care At Work
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
- Leadership Persuasion
People strong in influencing sell the team’s ideas inside and outside the organization.
Lead from the influencing domain — take charge, speak up, make sure others are heard
- Perspective Taking Manager
Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
Understand the constraints your manager operates under
- The One Thing As A Caregiver
Sustainable tend-and-befriend requires that the caregiver’s own basic needs are met — otherwise helping depletes rather than regulates.
Tend to yourself before tending to others
- Transformational Leadership As A Caregiver
Develop leadership capacity throughout the team, not just in the designated leader.
Distribute leadership rather than centralizing it
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