Coaching practices for In Group Out Group Leader
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- I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around
- One-on-one keeps falling apart the second the other person gets busy
- Whenever my team decides anything, the loudest or most senior person’s view just takes over the room and everyone quietly falls in line
- Our brainstorms always get hijacked by the same two loud, senior voices while the quieter people
- In our meetings everyone just nods along and the doubts only come out in private afterward, because being the one who pushes back makes you look like you’re not a team player
Practices that may help
- Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
Leader-member exchange theory, developed by George Graen and Mary Uhl-Bien, holds that leaders do not treat all followers the same — they develop distinct dyadic relationships ranging from high-LMX (trust, respect, mutual obligation) to low-LMX (formal, exchange-based). High-LMX relationships are consistently associated with better performance, satisfaction, and career outcomes in observational research. - Join a small accountability group
Report to a small group rather than one person to add redundancy and social proof.
Accountability Partners - Use structured team forecasting to aggregate diverse views
Combine independent estimates from multiple people before the group talks — aggregation beats any single expert.
Superforecasting - Use round-robin turns to equalize contribution
Give everyone a timed, equal turn — it prevents a few voices from dominating and pulls quieter members into the space.
Osborn’s Brainstorming Rules, Made Practical - Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Red Teaming: Stress-Testing Plans Before They Fail - Deliberately expand your inner circle
Move team members from low-LMX to high-LMX through intentional relationship investment.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Give voice to those with uncomfortable perspectives
Actively surface and protect the dissenting or marginal voices the system wants to silence.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Delegating — hand over both direction and decision
With a skilled, committed performer, give the goal and the authority, then get out of the way.
Situational Leadership, Made Practical - Harness visible commitment in group settings
When one person in a group makes a visible commitment, others follow — start with the most willing.
Social Proof, Made Practical
Related concerns
- In Group Out Group Leadership
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
- Group Conformity Dynamics
People conform to what they believe others like them are doing — show them accurate norms.
Use social norm messages to shift behavior
- How To Challenge Groupthink
Give one person the formal job of arguing against the plan — making dissent structural, not personal.
Appoint an explicit devil’s advocate role
- Similarity And Groupthink
Seeking people who agree with everything you believe produces an echo chamber, not a support network.
Use similarity to connect, not to seek validation
- What Should I Do When I Feel Overshadowed By An Extremely Talented Team Member
In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
Practice owning your contribution in group settings
- When Pre Mortem Write Independently First
Everyone records failure causes alone first, so the room doesn’t converge too soon.
Write reasons independently before discussing
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