Coaching practices for Inner Game Feedback Method

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• Every time something doesn’t land I turn it into "I’m failing at this" instead of just noticing what actually happened
• All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation
• I deliver my feedback as a finished verdict and then the other person just sits there closed off
• The instant someone gives me hard feedback I’m already explaining and defending myself
• When I just hand someone my assessment they go passive and defensive, like I’m doing something to them

Practices that may help

1. Use the performance-feedback loop without Self 1
   Treat every outcome as information, not a verdict — adjust without judging.
   The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
2. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
   Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
   Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
3. Invite a response after delivering SBI
   Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
4. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
5. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
6. The Inner Game: Quieting Self 1
   Timothy Gallwey’s Inner Game framework distinguishes Self 1 — the critical, instructing voice that interferes with performance — from Self 2, the body’s natural learning intelligence. Performance improves not by trying harder but by reducing Self 1’s interference so Self 2 can perform. The model is widely applied in coaching, athletics, and business; controlled-trial evidence is limited but the underlying mechanisms align with research on choking, explicit monitoring, and attentional redirection.
7. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
   Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
8. Make feedback flow in both directions
   Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
   Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
9. Create a feedback acknowledgment ritual to close each tracking cycle
   A brief, consistent closing ritual after reviewing behavioral data anchors the feedback loop and prevents it from becoming pure surveillance.
   Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
10. Actively seek feedback on your blind spots
    Ask specifically for what others see that you might not — with enough specificity to get honest answers.
    The Johari Window

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